When one or both partners allow their phones to interfere with or interrupt time spent together, including activities and conversations, the message being sent is that the technology is valued more than the partner. While smartphones are certainly useful tools, understand that this particular form of technology can be a major contributor to the breakdown of communication between partners. Learn to put your phone in silent mode when spending time with or having a conversation with your partner. And if you have the choice between spending time with your partner or spending time on Facebook—make sure you do the former. Becoming excessively dependent on your smartphone can result in the following:
Impersonal communications with your partner;
Lack of bonding and intimacy;
Becoming non-empathetic human beings;
Becoming indifferent to the real world and real people;
Becoming too attached to the online approval of strangers;
Finding yourself seeking validation from strangers, and
Losing connections to loved ones.
If your relationship is in trouble, and you feel your spouse has checked out, conduct your own personal reality check to find out how much time you spend with your smartphone or computer—and away from your spouse.
When You Realize You Couldn’t Care Less What Your Spouse is Up to, The Relationship is in Trouble
Couples who still have a connection want to hear about their partner’s day, and are truly interested in the things their partner has to say. This is not to say you are still as fascinated by every single word which comes out of his or her mouth as you were in the early days of your relationship, but you are still invested in your conversations and your life together. If, on the other hand, you totally check out when your partner begins telling you about his or her day, this signals their life is no longer of any interest to you. You may feel as though your path in life is far removed from your partner’s life, if not physically, then emotionally.
