When your wife hardly ever touches you—even to hold your hand, then she may have one foot out the door. Couples who are still in love, even when they are going through a rough patch, will still usually offer a squeeze of the hand, a pat, or a hug. When your wife shows a total lack of physical intimacy (not just in the bedroom, but in everyday life), then the connection you once had may be gone.
When it feels like your lives never coincide, your wife may have checked out. Of course spouses need more than just one another in their lives, and it is perfectly normal and healthy to have a life outside the marriage. However, if your wife is living a totally separate life from you, warning bells should be going off.
When the only thing she talks to you about is the kids or keeping the household running, there may not be a real connection between the two of you anymore. Of course, parents have to talk about the children, and, unfortunately, bills and meals, and grocery shopping also have to be regular topics of conversation. If these things are all you talk about, the bond between the two of you may be broken. When there is absolutely no time set aside for the two of you to be partners, friends, and lovers, your relationship is in trouble.
She aims sarcastic remarks at you on a regular basis. Couples who truly care about one another may say things occasionally they regret, but, all in all, they choose their words carefully. When your wife looks for any opportunity to point out your mistakes, aim sarcastic barbs at you, or belittle you, your marriage is in trouble.
When You Spend More Time with Your Phone Than Your Partner—Your Relationship is in Trouble
With the advent of smartphones, it is hardly unusual to see a couple together, having dinner or otherwise spending time together, yet both of them are totally engrossed in their phone. If this is a common scenario with your spouse, you may be in the same area, but you are not spending quality time together. Far too many people have formed what psychologists call an “emotional attachment” to their phones. Those in relationships—even long-term relationships—find themselves having to compete with their partner’s smartphone for attention. In fact, one survey found that:
75 percent of women in committed relationships feel smartphones reduce the amount of time they spend with their partner and generally interfere with their love life.
About 33 percent of the women surveyed claimed their significant other had looked at his phone on numerous occasions—while the two were in a serious conversation.
Twenty-five percent of the women surveyed said their boyfriend or husband even composed texts while they were in the middle of an important conversation.
