The further she went, the more serious her face became.
Diego had used the joint BBVA Mexico account to cover personal expenses and transfers related to a small import business officially registered in his mother’s name, Doña Lucía Ortega .
The problem: some of the money used came from my contributions and a loan taken out during our marriage.
In other words, while Lucía was calling me a gold digger and cheap, she and her beloved son had been benefiting from my financial stability for months to cover up holes they didn’t want to publicly acknowledge.
Mariana advised me to keep a cool head.
First: block access to any shared accounts.
Request bank records.
Gather all documentation proving my contributions to the department, the loans, and the extra payments.
She also told me something that gave me peace of mind:
if I could prove the misuse of marital funds and the concealment of debts, I could protect my share, claim back what was owed, and document the mismanagement within the marriage.
It wasn’t about revenge. It was about preventing them from dragging me down with them.
That same week I discovered the missing piece.
Diego hadn’t just moved money without telling me; he’d also put my number and email address as a secondary contact on several of Lucía’s business documents.
Probably because I was the one who always responded quickly and “made a good impression.”
That’s how I received notices of delays, demands, and a particularly sensitive email from a supplier threatening legal action for non-payment.
My name wasn’t listed as the primary account holder, but I was close enough to be implicated if things blew up.
Mariana wrote two impeccable steps:
a formal communication demanding separation of economic responsibilities
a request for property measures prior to divorce
At the same time, we sent a request for them to stop using my data in any commercial transaction.
I was scared, yes. But for the first time I didn’t feel helpless.